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I have one luxury in my life. A few years ago I bought a small hot tub. I love love it. Living up here in the Midwest instead of down on the coast in Texas it is the one thing that makes winter bearable to me. I get up at 5 in the morning and run out and get in. It warms me all the way through and then I start my day. At the end of the day it is the last refuge from all the stress. As you can see this is important.
My grandson, Q, has blown the engine in his car. With cutbacks at work because of lack of sales giving a loan to fix the car is an impossibility. We're struggling to make ends meet. If we lived in town it could wait. My daughter travels 25 miles south to work every day. I travel 15 miles east. Q's school is 14 miles north. He rides the bus to school but if he wants to participate in anything extracurricular he has to drive. So even though he has had to cut back on his driving with prices the way they are he still has to drive sometimes.
I am selling the tub to help raise the money to fix the car. Q is upset because he knows how much I love the hot tub but I am still selling. This particular engine on a Ford Focus is hard to get and expensive. It will still be a scramble to pay for the engine but selling my luxury will help.
At first I was sick thinking about it. Then I came to realize Q is more important to me than some hot tub. I explained to Q that people are more important than things. I explained that in the overall scheme of things his being involved in school and activities seemed a whole lot more important than a hottub. You know, it really doesn't bother me any more to sell the tub.
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12/03/08 16:14pm PST RebelMom
I would do the same thing too. If I had a hot tub, I would be just like you. I'll be in it all the time (I live in the far east of the Midwest ... true midwesterners say that I am not a real midwesterner ... =0) ) and hot water sure makes the winter a little bit easier. However, that is a very special thing you're doing for Q. I hope he realizes that his grandma has a special heart of gold. Makes me miss my grandma even more. -
12/02/08 14:43pm PST marylou
Doesn't seem like a sacrifice when it's for someone you love. But Arlijohn, that's a gold star thing that you're doing. And you know what? Maybe he'll even appreciate school and those extracurriculars even more knowing that you gave something up for him. -
12/02/08 14:00pm PST JuliasMom
I totally get it. I would do the same thing for my daughter. But I still wish you could have your hottub too... -
12/02/08 13:41pm PST arlijohn
Thanks for the suggestions. All of the motors in the salvage yards are going for $1500.00. That is what the mechanic will purchase for us. Q's school is so small they don't have auto mechanics, so that is out. -
12/02/08 13:39pm PST westtexas8
we grandma's love our grandbabies! a suggestion- is there a wrecking yard near with a motor that can be recycled? would the automotive class at the school be willing (with the teacher ) to install said motor? Maybe for free? At least for less money? Then Q could learn to do this himself (you just never know when he might need this info) and perhaps not break the bank? I have read about your charming young capitalist. You are right, he sounds worth the sale.


Stumble It!
Freezing my extremities off in Chicago right now (how DID my blood get so think living out east for all those years?) I KNOW how much that tub means to you. Luxuriate in the love you have for Q and he for you. You may not believe this, but there are some moms (let alone grandmas!) who wouldn't think of selling their hot tub - it just wouldn't occur to them. They'd wring their hands and say "gee I wish there was something we could do. It's too bad you've got to give up doing that thing you love because you've got to take the bus now." Thanks for being the other kind.