Welcome to tokoni

She was perfect. 5 wks early and blonde wispies, and huge blue eyes and the longest toes in the free world. She could swing from those pinkies. She walked early, and talked early and was the little princess. Than he showed up. 23 monthe to the day later. Cry, cry, cry.Spit up everywhere. All kinds of allergies. Asthma. Hernia repair at 3yr.Perfect, and blonde and blue eyed, but who even went there. More dicipline we told her when he turned two. Dear God you just could not  catch a break when he was around. Did not walk or talk or potty train or play with others or listen like she did. He would rather have fits of anger and throw anything he could get his hands on, spit, scratch, kick,bang his head on the floor till it bled, bite himself till it bled. Whoa. Bang and bite? Maybe there is a problem. Maybe all the people who say he needs discipline are wrong. Maybe my guilt is unfounded. Fight for testing. And fight and fight. Six months of early intervention and medical daycare "mother, he is fine. You are very young to be marries with two childre, you know. Ratio? Most times 2:1. One of us spends the whole day with him. We just love him. Finally got an appointment with a pediatric neurologist andguess what. A diagnosis. Finally. OK doctor what seems to be his problem? AUTISM. Oh dear God no. I was so careful with my pregnancy. Why? The answer of course is...because. Now see a child psychiatrist because now he has a diagnosis. Meds? I don't know but if it helps I will give it a try. He is a whole new child. A joy to be with. A small  dose of a psycotropic was the answer. He is now in kindergarten and doing well. He talks, and plays. He has a 1:1 at school if needed. He does not like change and has certain rituals he follows. But he is the cutest thing on 2 feet. She is now in second grade. It has not been easy. Not at all..He hit her a lot and broke her things. She loves her brother. and her brother loves her. She knows he has a problem and that he is working on it . He sometimes gets on her nerves [wait till they are teens] but they do love each other. This is the only brother she hhas. He is all she knows. My daughter and my son-in-law have grown up so much through this. They grew together, not apart as so often happens. IGod alone knows what the future will held for him, but that is the same with anyone. Next time you see a child acting out or misbehaving do not assume you know the whole story. Cause you know what they say about assume--     it makes an ASS out of U and ME.