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I live in an excruciatingly small town... I was getting ready to pull out of the driveway to go for a haircut and my ex pulled up (not unusual).  He asked me where I was going and I said "to town to get a haircut".  He said "Boy, I need one myself."  So I said "Hop in.  I'm sure Lisa can squeeze you in." 

So we arrived in town "together" and everyone's mouth was agape.  I sat in Lisa's chair and she said "I'm so happy!"  I said "Why?"  and she said "To see you two together again!!  You made my day!!"  I said "Lisa, it's not what you think..."  She said "Well, I can hope, can't I?"

I sat there the whole time she was cutting my hair thinking "Oh, man... it's going to get all over town now that I'm back together with my ex."

Which, I suppose, would not be a BAD thing.  He's been my best friend for 31 years.  We divorced because he had an affair with a good friend of mine for a year and a half, we did the whole marriage counseling thing and at the end of the year of counseling the counselor asked what I needed to be "validated" again.  I thought about it and said "Maybe we could renew our vows?"  To which my ex responsed "No, I can't."

So I divorced his ass.  But we remained the best of friends.  We have not been "together" in 4 years but have painstakingly stayed very close for our 3 kids, to finish our "job".

My fear is... what is the success rate of "getting back together" with an ex?  Do you have to iron out all of the "problems" you had when you were together before?  Or do you just start fresh?  I guess I never thought about it before until today, walking through town, seeing the delight on everyone's face...

I'm still reeling a bit.  We were together as "friends" always, since I was 16 and now I'm 47.  I never really glanced at him before and thought about "getting back together."  But now a new question is posed in my head... should we just keep it like this?  What are our chances if we "try it again?"