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Book Cover Survey(5196)
As a lot of you know I am in the middle of compiling a book for my Mom's Christmas. Now if they can just keep her off tokoni we'll be ok.
Any way I have 2 different colours of the same cover designs, and I was wondering if you all would vote on which one you like the best. It would really help me out as I tend to get a little carried away with my graphics sometimes. Since I can't draw this is as good as it gets.
I am also working on a completely different design, that looks really Victorian. I will include this one in another update. It reminds me of the first book I remember Mom reading with me. Grimm's Fairy Tales, we drug that book through 3 divorces, 15 moves and 6 kids. It even survived our house blowing up at the farm. I think it is still in my Moms Cedar Chest to this day.
Thanks so much!
* This is the final product, I also liked the Red. I guess it's a little loud, but Mom will love it.
Oh What A Stab to My Wounded Ego!(5223)
I had a rather stunning stab to my ego this past weekend. I was in work and going into a stock room. Some of the department leads were in there and were chatting. I joined in. We were talking about nothing in particular. All was lighhearted conversation. Then.... one of the ladies mentioned that she needed new work pants. I said that I was having a hard time finding pants for work. Here's where the stab came when one of the ladies commented to me that maybe I should stop eating and then double slammed me by stating that I had a big, fat ass! I was stunned and shocked that she had the nerve to say something like that to me. She wasn't someone that I considered a friend... just a work aquaintance. Anyway, I just kinda shrugged, said that I'm leaving to cry, and walked out the room.
There's one thing that I'm super sensitive about and that is my weight. I walk around in a rather large body. I've battled with my weight all my life. I've gained some substantial weight in the last 5 years. Nothing seems to work as far as losing it. I do eat a rather healthy and well-balanced diet everyday. I don't overindulge. I just am large. I have a rather extensive family history of large people. The only thing that I should do more is exercise. I'm not giving any excuses for that. It is what it is.
In these last 5 years, I've developed a very poor body image. I can't stand to look in the mirror and see just how large I am. I try my best to look my best everyday. I dress well and not sloppy. It's very rare thought that I like the way that I look. I carry this poor image with me everyday.
So..... this stunning stab that I took only made me feel worse about myself. I can't seem to let it go. How can someone be so cruel to say something like that to me? It comes very close to being verbally abusive.
What do you think? Please comment if you please. I'm looking only for support and some encouragement . Please no diet tips. I've done practically all the diet fads. I'm done with that and have just encorporated a very healthy and well balanced daily diet routine. At least I know for sure that I do eat healthy, wise and well. I believe that moderation is the key to eating and I am very disciplined as far as that is concerned.
Just tell me your thoughts. That's all that I ask! I'm not looking for pity.
Insurance envy(5221)
I couldn't sleep last night because I was mulling over the comments made in a recent post about the Automakers bailout. Everyone has good points but here is what I've gotten to. I am very glad that GM provides good insurance coverage. Otherwise, we would not be able to provide surgery to "fix my son's ears" which is so essential for a six-year-old to have in order to thrive in a hearing world.
However, why do people always blame the autoworkers for their woes? Yes, we do have good insurance. No, we do not expect people's tax dollars to provide for our children's college education and I seriously doubt that the bailout will provide that. GM does take care of their employees and they should. If anyone has worked in a factory, they will understand what I mean by hard, dirty work. It is so dangerous. I refuse to allow my husband to tell me what he does at work because I would literally lie awake every single night worrying about him. He works in one of the most dangerous parts of the foundry, it's dangerous and it's dirty. Know why they offer early retirement for their employees? Because they don't have long to live to enjoy it because of all the health complications. I have read of so many obituaries where a former GM employee died within a year or two after retirement because of health issues. There is a saying out at the plant that if you stop breathing the air out there, you will die sooner than later. Apparently, your body does build up resistance to the stuff floating around back there that when you stop breathing in the fumes, your body can't handle it and goes into shock. Ok, this is not medically proven nor is it scientific, so if you quote me, be sure to say, this is just an observation from someone who knows people at the factory.
Isn't that a good thing then that GM provides insurance for their employees? The employees work hard all those years in bad working conditions (I mean, come on, who would want to work among the smelt and dirty air and hot sand blowing all over?) and their lives have been shortened due to working in that kind of atmosphere ... so why not provide the insurance for the employees and their families so when they do die from different ailments, they're not going to suffer at the end? Or their families forced to pay castrophic bills? Isn't that what we all want?
So, let's go back to insurance envy (believe me, a lot of my friends here at home are envious), why do people attack GM for providing good insurance? Why not attack the insurance companies for their predatory behavior? Why not attack the pharmetical companies for driving the costs of drugs up? If insurance companies were fair, they would offer good plans to small business owners. My parents own a small business and I can guarantee that most of their profits went straight to the insurance companies for their employees (when they had them, but they couldn't afford to provide better coverages for their employees, so they left to find jobs that could provide them). But you don't hear those stories at all in the media. If you do, it's usually mentioned in stories of interest where a person can't afford to pay for cancer treatments or has been denied help because it didn't match the insurance company's policy. Whatever. The point is, instead of attacking people who do have good insurance, why not point the finger at the real culprits in the picture? The insurance companies are making a lot of money. What irritates my husband is that if you go into the hospital and requires an x-ray to fix something, the insurance company will cover it but at a discount. So instead of the insurance company paying $500 for the x-ray, it'll pay $250 and the hospital will call it good. But if you don't have insurance, you have to pay the entire $500 for it. Now, isn't that just wrong here? The hospital will give the insurance company a discount (they are already getting money from the policy holder who pays for the services and now they get another break?), but won't give the same discount to someone who can't afford the x-ray to begin with. It boggles my mind.
I have a friend who pays $900 a month for her family insurance. I mean, that much money goes out of her husband's paycheck (he works for a mid-size auto dealership lot) for insurance, plus there's a $1,000 deductible per person in that household plus there's co-pay for every single doctor's visit. She doesn't have vision and dental. Health insurance is a major concern for her and it should be. Fortunately, she and her family are healthy, but that is not the case for a lot of Americans. Shouldn't there be a way to fix it so there's health insurance for everyone in America? I seriously doubt that the doctors will lose any money over this (they're paying into the medicare program because it's from their taxes, but don't they get some of that back when they accept medicare patients?). I think the insurance companies employees will get the same amount of pay ... the top guy at the helm may not get all of his bonuses and perks, but he's making enough money as it is. It shouldn't affect him at all.
Again, it's the middle guy getting the squeeze from the corporations. I believe that there is so much greed among the top officers of so many businesses, that they've lost sight of what they should be doing. If they remember that at all. I do not know enough about insurance companies but have enough experience dealing with some of the issues ... I am thankful that we have it, but once my husband leaves for school, we won't have that good of insurance again. Unless somewhere there is a change. So let's stop attacking the automakers for providing good insurance for their employees. Let's start thinking of ways to provide insurance for everyone. That is a part of the American dream after all.
God Fixed My Washer Today & I Helped(5175)
I need to share a little story with you all and a bit of advice! First of all be careful what you pray for and how you say it. Second if your man brings an Egyptian Cotton Clearance Sale Shirt home, throw that sucker in the trash before he even has time to rip the tags off.
Twas the night before Thanksgiving and all through the house I gathered the laundry as quite as a mouse.
I sorted and separated and put them in piles, then into the baskets with a smug little smile.
When what to my wandering eyes should appear but an errant new shirt that missed it's load, Oh dear!
So I sprinted and dashed and fell on my knees, oh darn I missed it, the next load it must be!
The towels, the whites, my new jammies too, all clean as a whistle before I knew it I was through.
Now on to the last load if you please, I mixed in the new shirt with all his old T's.
Finally a break; in my chair fast asleep was I, when an ungodly groan filled the air with a sigh.
I jumped and I ran this time staying upright, my washer was jumping and bouncing, a dreadful sight.
I hit the control and said with a prayer, Lord please help me there's no money to spare.
I grabbed hold of the handle and yanked open the door, only to have all the water spill out on the floor.
So ladies I warn you the next time you pray, make sure you are careful of just what you say!
I should have prayed for a miracle indeed, for God to fix that washer instead of me!
Copyright ©2008Cynara
New Member here(5220)
Granted, I have been a member since late September but have not had a chance to sit down and write anything. Nor do I have the time to read. It seems like I am dithering and dathering there. It doesn't help much that every single week there's always something going on with my husband's job. For the last two weeks, he was only one of two millwrights in his area. He has been laid off at least four times in the last year. He's facing layoff again in December.
It wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't for our son's medical issues. Granted, and thankfully, his medical issue is "minor" in comparison to a lot of children. He doesn't have cancer nor does he have a life-threatening issue. He just needs a new set of ears so he can hear and fortunately, just this week, our insurance company approved the whole surgery and hopefully, the follow-up care. He will get cochlear implants on both ears. He's looking forward to being able to hear. So that's a whole another set of issue facing us.
Then to top all this off, because of my husband's job, he decided to go back to school at the age of fifty and try for a third career. He fell into the factory job by accident. He got laid off from his job as a medical technologist when a big company bought out his hospital and brought in their own people. So he was offered to work at GM when his brother-in-law at the time sponsored him. It's been an interesting 13 years for him since he is technically a white-collar worker in a blue-collar field. Last year, the opportunity arose where he could take refresher classes at the local community college to see if he could handle going back to school. (Yes, I am proud to say, he's a straight A student!) He took a full-class load and worked fulltime and overtime AND dealt with the sudden hearing loss of our son ... all at once. He handled it better than I did.
Ok, maybe not. But it felt like it. With that in mind, he decided to apply for graduate school as a physican assistant. Who knows if he'll get accepted ... this year or next. Plan B is to go into nursing. Plan C ... who knows? We'll figure it out. Once we get him figured out, then we can figure out what I can do. Until then, one of us has to be around to help our children ... and right now, I am the better choice for it. This is not to say that he's not a good father because he is. He is one of those hands-on father who takes care of his kids when they're sick, work with them on their homework and all this stuff. His kids adore him. Me too.
So, throughout this year, we have been struggling and praying for a way out of this situation. Now, while it does sound dire, I don't feel like it's going to be the worst thing that has ever happened to us. It will all work out ... I don't know how or what or when, but it will work out.
Until then, we will celebrate Christmas with our children and family as well as with friends. This may be our last "extravagant" Christmas but we will still be together. God willing.
This is our story, well, my story. Our story because my husband and I are a team and while we have a lot facing us in the new year, I have a feeling that it will be a good year. It will definitely be a year of changes.
Picture this!(5213)
*SPOILER ALERT* -- Close friends and family should AVOID reading this post. I'm going to be discussing the awesome presents I'm getting you for Christmas! No peeking!
Like a lot of people, I've been forced to cut back on spending this year. That includes (unfortunately) Christmas and holiday gifts. I'm the kind of person who - when she has lots of cash - is super excited about buying people lots of presents. But this year, not so much. So I've been forced to become a little creative in my gift-giving. Here are a couple of ideas that'll save you money without skimping on the holiday spirit:
1. Photos! Nothing makes me happier than getting a photo as a gift, especially when it's in a beautiful frame AND it's a good picture of me :) (I'm so vain, I HATE bad pictures of me) So I completely lucked out earlier this autumn when I found a huge box of old family photos - and we're talking REALLY old photos. Like, pictures of my dad bowling in college. My mom's nursing school graduation photo. Grandpa holding my hand at Disneyland. I grabbed a stack of pictures and took them to Walgreens, where I could easily scan and resize the photos and reprint them for a very cheap price. Now I've got great pictures that some family members haven't seen in years, and I know they'll love them. The key, however, is to get a nice frame to go along with it, so gift recipients can hang up the picture immediately. Otherwise, the pix might be tossed in an old shoebox and forgotten about. Places like Target and Walmart have super cheap frames, and Aaron Bros. as well. And if there's a Linens n' Things store going out of business at a place near you, you can pick up frames at a very reasonable price.
2. Food! This is especially great for co-workers. Instead of spending money you don't have buying crappy presents for co-workers, simply bake a bunch of cookies or cupcakes or muffins (oooh, try Trader Joe's Pumpkin Bread mix and make the batter into mini muffins! So yummy!). Buy some cheap mugs or containers at your local 99 Cent store, pile in the goodies, and wrap them in heat-sealing cellophane from a craft store (check out Michaels for heat-sealing cellophane). Put a bow and a handmade card on each. You'll seem like a domestic goddess! But don't forget about people who have dietary restrcitions - One of the nicest gifts I ever received from a coworker was a simple brown coffee mug filled with sugar-free candies (while others in the office got regular sugar candies). It was a sweet, thoughtful and no doubt inexpensive gift.
3. Music! I love getting and receiving music mixes on CD. Every year I make a mix of popular and classic music for my mom, and she loves it. She gets to keep up with the hot music (Britney, Rhianna, Amy Winehouse, the Killers) and I'll throw on some oldies but goodies and some showtunes, songs she already knows. Make a mix for a friend and label it: Songs I Think Of When I Think Of You. Throw in some songs you love, some songs you think they'll love, and some songs that mean something to both of you.
Happy holidays and good gift-giving! Add some more suggestions for cheapy gifts in the comments section!
Giving Up Luxury(5210)
I have one luxury in my life. A few years ago I bought a small hot tub. I love love it. Living up here in the Midwest instead of down on the coast in Texas it is the one thing that makes winter bearable to me. I get up at 5 in the morning and run out and get in. It warms me all the way through and then I start my day. At the end of the day it is the last refuge from all the stress. As you can see this is important.
My grandson, Q, has blown the engine in his car. With cutbacks at work because of lack of sales giving a loan to fix the car is an impossibility. We're struggling to make ends meet. If we lived in town it could wait. My daughter travels 25 miles south to work every day. I travel 15 miles east. Q's school is 14 miles north. He rides the bus to school but if he wants to participate in anything extracurricular he has to drive. So even though he has had to cut back on his driving with prices the way they are he still has to drive sometimes.
I am selling the tub to help raise the money to fix the car. Q is upset because he knows how much I love the hot tub but I am still selling. This particular engine on a Ford Focus is hard to get and expensive. It will still be a scramble to pay for the engine but selling my luxury will help.
At first I was sick thinking about it. Then I came to realize Q is more important to me than some hot tub. I explained to Q that people are more important than things. I explained that in the overall scheme of things his being involved in school and activities seemed a whole lot more important than a hottub. You know, it really doesn't bother me any more to sell the tub.
Just a Bad Kid(5206)
She was perfect. 5 wks early and blonde wispies, and huge blue eyes and the longest toes in the free world. She could swing from those pinkies. She walked early, and talked early and was the little princess. Than he showed up. 23 monthe to the day later. Cry, cry, cry.Spit up everywhere. All kinds of allergies. Asthma. Hernia repair at 3yr.Perfect, and blonde and blue eyed, but who even went there. More dicipline we told her when he turned two. Dear God you just could not catch a break when he was around. Did not walk or talk or potty train or play with others or listen like she did. He would rather have fits of anger and throw anything he could get his hands on, spit, scratch, kick,bang his head on the floor till it bled, bite himself till it bled. Whoa. Bang and bite? Maybe there is a problem. Maybe all the people who say he needs discipline are wrong. Maybe my guilt is unfounded. Fight for testing. And fight and fight. Six months of early intervention and medical daycare "mother, he is fine. You are very young to be marries with two childre, you know. Ratio? Most times 2:1. One of us spends the whole day with him. We just love him. Finally got an appointment with a pediatric neurologist andguess what. A diagnosis. Finally. OK doctor what seems to be his problem? AUTISM. Oh dear God no. I was so careful with my pregnancy. Why? The answer of course is...because. Now see a child psychiatrist because now he has a diagnosis. Meds? I don't know but if it helps I will give it a try. He is a whole new child. A joy to be with. A small dose of a psycotropic was the answer. He is now in kindergarten and doing well. He talks, and plays. He has a 1:1 at school if needed. He does not like change and has certain rituals he follows. But he is the cutest thing on 2 feet. She is now in second grade. It has not been easy. Not at all..He hit her a lot and broke her things. She loves her brother. and her brother loves her. She knows he has a problem and that he is working on it . He sometimes gets on her nerves [wait till they are teens] but they do love each other. This is the only brother she hhas. He is all she knows. My daughter and my son-in-law have grown up so much through this. They grew together, not apart as so often happens. IGod alone knows what the future will held for him, but that is the same with anyone. Next time you see a child acting out or misbehaving do not assume you know the whole story. Cause you know what they say about assume-- it makes an ASS out of U and ME.
Big Three Bailout - Seriously, $1?(5199)
This morning, Ford CEO Alan Mullaly said he would cut his salary to $1 a year if his company takes any government loan money.
I'd love to know exactly how he'll do that and still get health benefits. Because as far as I know, most companies have to pay at least minimum wage for a full-time employee to receive benefits. And full-time minimum wage is about $14 an hour. But I suppose it's a good step toward doing the right thing for your company.
Take a look at this story, though. I think it's amazing that a CEO like this exists, anywhere in the world.
thinking... I know this will be unpopular, and I'm not sorry(5193)
My father came to America from Brazil in 1970. He was 18 years old. He didn't sneak into our country or work off the books and not pay taxes. He didn't come here to escape punishment for crimes committed in Brazil. He didn't run back and forth to Brazil and maintain dual citizenship. He became an American citizen, nothing else and it was one of the happiest days of his life. As I've gotten older I am reminded of the things that both my dad and my gradmother told me about our country. My grandmother was equally patriotic and told me about her life and about how things have changed. She used to tell me that this country was going to hell in a handbag and I used to look at her funny and think she was crazy.... I don't think my grandma is crazy anymore. I wish she were here so I could tell her she was right but then again, the state of our country would probably kill her....
I think what is most profound is that our rights are being taken away from us so that special interest groups, foreigners, immigrants, politicians can FEEL good and don't get "offended"
I think it's amazing that we tell children "sticks and stones may break you bones but names (words) will never hurt you" but adults have such thin skin that they run to court to file suit the moment that someone says something "they don't like"
Is anyone else scared at how quickly we are being stripped of certain rights? take for instance, the 2008 presidential campaign. One of Obama's supporters filed a lawsuit citing that Palin and McCain, "intentionally, recklessly and irresponsibly” portrayed Obama “as un-American, a terrorist by association, and ‘not like us,’ a non-white individual.”
This makes me laugh and it makes me sick in the same instance. First off, it's now against the LAW to voice truths? Obama has been linked to Terrorist organizations (more than one), He IS 1/2 white but he doesn't identify with that seeing as how everyone calls him the first BLACK president.... he IS 1/2 white and he and his camp never really focused on that nor would I expect them to ficus on ANY race... it IS supposed to be who has MORE experience and who can do a BETTER job isn't it? Our First Amendment reads as follows:
"Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances." I didn't read anything about people's feelings being hurt or anyone being "offended". slowly but surely we are being stifled. Those of us who speak our opinions get ridiculed and called names (unfortunately this is a far left liberal stance).
The 4th amendment is well on it's way to becoming non-existent... The right of the people to be secure in their persons, houses, papers, and effects, against unreasonable searches and seizures, shall not be violated, and no Warrants shall issue, but upon probable cause, supported by Oath or affirmation, and particularly describing the place to be searched, and the persons or things to be seized.
Police can basically search ANYTHING upon their “discretion” nowadays… No probable cause is even needed to search a person’s automobile in most states. Searches on homes are a bit trickier but police have found ways around obtaining warrants for searches on private homes too… citing probable cause once again…
The 8th Amendment is another one… it says: Excessive bail shall not be required, nor excessive fines imposed, nor cruel and unusual punishments inflicted.
I can say only one thing… ever been to jail or prison or know anyone who has? Ask them if excessive force or cruel and unusual punishment was inflicted…. Chances are they’ll say yes..
And what IS “cruel and unusual punishment” ? Well to a sociopathic/ sadistic correction officer I’m sure that it’s FAR worse than what you or I would consider “cruel and unusual”. And then of course… we have Guantanamo Bay… nuff said.
The 12th amendment pertains to the electoral college which we quite honestly do not need anymore. Aside from that, I’m wondering how this amendment will fare when they finally find out Obama was BORN in Kenya…. I wonder how we will manipulate THAT! No OFFICIAL birth certificate exists in Hawaii, only a certificate that basically names his mother as a citizen… she was a Kenyan citizen as well.
The 14th Amendment was written to protect American slaves that were treated differently even though they were Americans. Part of it reads: “All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside. No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.”
This brings to mind all of the illegal immigrants living in our country illegally claiming OUR constitutional rights. I believe that the very FIRST line says it best… So really, non-Americans are technically NOT protected under OUR Bill of Rights and Constitution… That IS the way it reads isn’t it?
The 16th Amendment says: The Congress shall have power to lay and collect taxes on incomes, from whatever source derived, without apportionment among the several States, and without regard to any census or enumeration.”
This amendment was never technically “ratified” in a lot of states and in many states where it was, the word INCOME was never cited. Of course, we hear little about this fact. Or the fact that our tax dollars are to be used for the good of ALL people…. So that bailout with our Federal reserve money to bailout private corporations/ banks… that violated every American who pays taxes rights…
And our economy? Well, those who think that OBAMA is going to fix it? Well, that's like the firefighter who starts a fire so he can put it out and appear the HERO....
Those who voted for him must know that he sued the banks and corporations to FORCE them to GIVE those bad loans and subprime mtgs to people who did NOT qualify don't you?
"In these lawsuits, ACORN makes a bogus claim of Redlining (denying poor people loans because of their ethnic heritage). They protest and get the local media to raise a big stink. This stink means that the bank faces thousands of people closing their accounts and get local politicians to lobby to stop the bank from doing some future business, expansions and mergers. If the bank goes to court, they will win, but the damage is already done because who is going to launch a big campaign to get the bank’s reputation back?
It is important to understand the nature of these lawsuits and what their purpose is. ACORN filed, or threatened to file, tons of these lawsuits and ALL CRA suits allege racism (usually the press involved and such with the threat of the CRA lawsuit is enough to get the bank to give in and put them in a catch 22, they also had a willing Janet Reno Justice Department to work with - see below for more on Reno). As we have said in our series or articles analyzing every aspect of this story (links at the very bottom of this post), the series of ACORN harassment lawsuits and intimidation against banks to lower credit standards was not the sole reason for the mortgage crisis, it was one important layer of many that brought us to the mortgage crisis and the largest financial scandal in the history of the world.
CRA was meant to encourage banks to make loans to high-risk borrowers, often minorities living in unstable neighborhoods. That has provided an opening to radical groups like ACORN (the Association of Community Organizations for Reform Now) to abuse the law by forcing banks to make hundreds of millions of dollars in “subprime” loans to often uncreditworthy poor and minority customers.
Any bank that wants to expand or merge with another has to show it has complied with CRA - and approval can be held up by complaints filed by groups like ACORN."
As Americans we HAVE the right to pursue happiness, we have a right to live our lives the way we would like to live our lives, to seek employment, to educate ourselves... but when did owning a home when you can't AFFORD it, become a RIGHT?" Is it a right for ME or is it just a RIGHT for minorities? And isn't THAT what's REALLY unconstitutional in 2008????
Please vote on 3 issues for the FCC Chairman(5194)
Weigh In on the Next FCC Chair
The FCC has been held hostage by corporate interests for too long. Now is our best chance to change course and make real the possibility of universal broadband access, an open Internet, and more locally controlled radio and TV.
The new FCC chair will be charged with bringing American media into the 21st century, which is why Obama must hear from you before deciding.
Giving at Christmas(5185)
My daughter and I have never had very much, but we consider ourselves fortunate because we have the ability to work and a job where we apply that ability. Every year we try to help out a family that is having trouble for whatever reason.
One year my daughter had a woman working under her who was single and had two children, a girl in her teens and a boy around ten. They never had anything so we chose them for our efforts that year. The woman wasn't particularly likeable but she was in a difficult position. She told my daughter she couldn't afford any Christmas at her house.
After thinking about it, we gave her $100.00 to buy gifts and a $50.00 gift card to a grocery store. Afterwards we found out the woman took the money and played lottery tickets plus bought alcohol to console herself with when she lost. The groceries were cigarettes and hot dogs.
We were chagrined and wondered if we ever wanted to attempt to help anyone again. We have but we learned some lessons from that fiasco.
1. Never give money unless you know the people well and are sure what they will do with it. We meant the money to go for things the children needed and perhaps something extra, not booze. What we could have done was ask for a list of what the children wanted or needed and purchased those items for the mother to give to her kids.
2. Don't give credit at the grocery store. Purchase groceries yourself, maybe inviting the family to go with you.
3. Don't give and then expect gratitiude. Even though parents might need help, it is an uncomfortable situation to be in. Just give what you give because you wish to and know that you have made a difference.
4. Be generous when you can. We have a philosophy of "what goes around, comes around." It has stood us in good stead and we have never really missed what we have given away.
5.Think outside the box. Maybe an elderly person needs the gift of company or somebody to shovel the sidewalk. We have given rides to doctor's appointments, run errands, and even cleaned house.
Giving is something that makes your soul happy, so give.
Money for the Bankers, none for the homeowners?(5181)
Just another little story from Texas; he must be one of Phil Gramm's predatory borrowers. Ah, I know, lets ask that female paragon of knowledge and spirit- Sarah Palin... (sorry, this one really gets me going)
Posted on Tue, Dec. 02, 2008
Hurst man with cancer still fighting today's planned foreclosure of home
A Hurst man with cancer has filed court papers trying to stop today’s planned foreclosure of his home.
The home of Frank Hartman, whose plight was featured recently in the Star-Telegram, is slated for the foreclosure auction this afternoon. The 67-year-old has been unable to make the payments on an adjustable-rate home-equity loan he took out with Ameriquest Mortgage in 2004. The debt is thousands of dollars more than the appraised value of the home.
Hartman’s attorneys, Tom Engle of Bedford and Michael Brinkley of Fort Worth, filed a motion last week asking the judge of the 141st District Court to stop the foreclosure. They are also asking for a new trial. The court clerk said late Monday afternoon that no response had been filed.
According to the court documents, the reasons for seeking to stop the foreclosure include that Hartman now has an attorney and that Ameriquest has already removed property from the house.
The court filings also say that Hartman’s home-equity loan is unconstitutional under Texas law because it is for more than 80 percent of the home’s value. The loan was for $116,000, while the Tarrant Appraisal District values the home at $78,500. Hartman’s attorneys say that the loan fees were also unlawfully high.
Engle said that Hartman has been "damaged severely."
"I think Mr. Hartman’s going to be OK eventually," he said.
ANDREA JARES, 817 548 5522
The Stepchild(5179)
Sometimes, I feel like everywhere I go I'm the stepchild. I'm not anyone's real kid, but the cast-off, the leftover, the "baggage." I read in Newsweek a few weeks ago that only ten percent of divorces actually involve children. Crazily enough, I'm in the minority.
But I guess it's not too crazy, if you think about it. Most of my friends can't empathize with me, instead, I'm the comfort when their parents are fighting. Sometimes, I want to be the one to say "oh, well, my parents haven't talked to each other in two years."
This Thanksgiving made me feel more like a step child than I've ever felt before. I kept searching for "the real parent" and yet, when I looked into my Dad's eyes, I felt lesser than the other kids. This is weird, because I don't want to feel jealousy towards three kids under ten. Moreover, I want to convince myself that this is just jealousy on my part. I'm moody. It's just college stress that's making me paranoid.
But whatever I did, in the six short days I spent in Michigan, I couldn't help but feel like the stepchild. It's hard to define exactly what a stepchild is. It's not like Lifetime movies, where the stepparent is some sort of secret evil, or like in "Stepmom" that one Julia Roberts movie where the two Moms make peace with each other. In truth, both parties make fun of each other, when they've only met briefly. Stepparents can be great people. They can pay for your school. They can make you feel at home. Sometimes, and understandably so, they're looking out for their own kids.
For three months last year, my mom spent the week in Chicago, and weekends home, in Arizona, for her work. This left my stepdad and I home together, where we would engage in three word discussions and awkwardly go about our own activities.
Here's what I've discovered about stepparents: I love them. But whatever I do, and whatever they do, we can never love each other like the real thing. There's too many other important things going on in each other's life.
A Realization(5177)
I never really understood what angst was. People always said the phrase "teenage angst" and I, in theory, understood the concept, but I had never experienced angst before.
I always thought angst was for emo kids. Or goths. Whatever angst was, it wasn't the type of emotion a preppy, hard-working, A- student felt.
But suddenly, I know angst. But my I look at myself and I am not emo or goth. I am the same girl in the polo shirt. But my heart understands angst. For once, I feel like a teenager.
This angst is not caused by family issues, a break up, or a fight with a friend. No. My angst comes from the world. I feel angst because of the current situation in India. I feel angst because of the economic crisis. But most of all, I feel angst because of college.
As I sit in calculus, I can't concentrate. Because at this moment my fate could be being decided. They could accept me. They could deny me. Or worst of all, they could differ me.
The feeling of uncertainty is nerve-racking. I have nightmares. My heart is in constant turmoil. And it is not the heartburn I get from my acid reflux. This is extreme, emotional worry, fear, pain, anxiety, and every other emotion all wraped up inside one tiny, 5 foot body. I feel like I am going to explode.
But as I am writing this, I feel silly. In 15 days I'll be happy or sad. If I am sad, then in about 4 months I'll recieve more letters from different colleges and be happy again.
But that comforting thought does not erase the feelings I am having. I can't just deny the stress of the college process, knowing that I will get in "somewhere." At the risk of sounding even more angsty, I hate the phrase "college process." It sounds so demeaning and derogatory, and yet it doesn't even begin to describe the vast, cruel abyss that is COLLEGE.
I guess I just need an outlet to express my worries about college. There is 1 week left of my first semester. 4 more exams. 15 days left of waiting. And 80 or so more years of my life to remember this time, and sigh, or laugh, or who knows what. It's unwritten. And the sooner I accept that uncertainty, the sooner I can get over myself, and move on.
Not the Life I Ordered(5171)
I am not quite sure who got my life, but I sure did not. When little I always dreamed of the son and daughter with blue eyes and blonde hair, who were both beautiful and tops in their classes. My 4 BR ranch had a pickett fence, white of course, and I had a station wagon to take John and Jane to practice for: piano, soft ball, ballet/dance, the lead in a play. The dog never shed and the cat kept her nails in and they both lovrd everyone, even the postman. My husband was to be the best dressed, best looking, smartest in the neighbor hood and all my friends were jealous. I was a stay home mom who volunteered some where as a was to be a nurse. Our life was perfect. 100% perfect. Alright. Fess up. WHO GOT MY LIFE? I sure didn't. Where did I fail? How did this happen? No June and Ward Cleaver. There are only a few things that I would change in my life, but nost I would leave as is. I got 2 girls and 1 boy. No dog. A cat who loves to scratch, and than bring back her fur balls. Ech. Two story house. No station wagon. A husband who was handsome, intelligent, not a real sharp dresser. Shorts and ban lon socks kind of guy. I worked full time as a nurse in a local hospital. I had to. No one was giving away $ back then. You know what? Who ever got my life...you can keep it. I am very happy with the one I got. It is the perfect life for me. Kids grew up. Great jobs. One married and one in a commited relationship. My son still fence sitting. 2 grandkids who are just perfect. We had our ups and downs. But you appreciate the ups a whole lot more if you have some downs. The only thing I would love to change is losing my husband at the age of 56. Complications of Agent Orange from 3 tours in Viet Nam and a Navy medic, who worked with the Marines. But I got more love, affection and respect in our 3 days short of thirty years than anyone I know. It is not cherries and roses...never will be...but it's mine and I plan to keep right on living it.
BUsh administration knew about mortage issues(5164)
I wanted to share this information- I have been listening to a group of peers for some time sneering about low income families and the liberals who made it possible for these outragrous loans - translation- Bill Clinton for starting and Nacy Peolosi and barny Frank for endorsing and continuing. Now we have a AP report that has yet to be disputed- except by Bush himself in an interview with Charlie Gibson.
article below:
By twist
One of the mantras we keep hearing about the credit crisis is "Who could have known?" Who SHOULD have known is the current administration:
The Bush administration ignored early warnings about the potential of the collapse of the banking system. That’s the finding of The Associated Press’ review of regulatory documents it has obtained.
If true, then it nullifies, at least in part, some of the explanation — and blame — that has been a part of the dialogue since the Wall Street market began its meltdown.
As early as January 2006, according to records, several mortgage experts, including California mortgage lender Paris Welch, had warned about the potential trouble.
"Expect fallout, expect foreclosures, expect horror stories," Ms. Welch wrote to U.S. regulators in January 2006, about one year before the housing implosion cost her her job, according to paperwork obtained by the AP.
Conventional wisdom has been that the blame for the meltdown is solely the fault of low-income Americans who either didn’t care or were duped into obtaining shaky mortgages on homes they could not afford.
But if the AP report is correct — and there is at this point no reason to doubt it — then the Bush administration deserves a great deal of the fault because it failed to act on warnings that mortgage lenders were engaged in risky behavior. The administration is said to have been warned that new regulations were needed to rein in banks and companies that were pushing no-money-down, interest-only mortgages years before the economy collapsed.
Some of those same lenders who are believed to have pressured the administration to look the other way have now failed.
The administration "ignored remarkably prescient warnings that foretold the financial meltdown," according to an ASSOCIATED PRESS review of regulatory documents.
The question is why.
According to the AP, the administration buckled under pressure from "aggressive lobbying," and accepted "assurances from banks" that the troubled mortgages were no problem, which delayed any action on possible tighter restrictions by regulators for more than a year.
By the time new rules were released late in 2006, the toughest of the proposed provisions were gone and the meltdown was under way.
"These mortgages have been considered more safe and sound for portfolio lenders than many fixed-rate mortgages," David Schneider, home loan president of Washington Mutual, told federal regulators in early 2006. Two years later, WaMu became the largest bank failure in U.S. history.
The BBC on Sec. of State(5168)
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Obama seeks balanced foreign team
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By Paul Reynolds
World affairs correspondent, BBC News website
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Mrs Clinton is more hawkish on foreign policy than Mr Obama
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President-elect Barack Obama's foreign policy team under Hillary Clinton as secretary of state will reassure the more hawkish elements in the United States, but might disappoint those who wanted a more radical shift.
The aim will be to try to solve problems before they reach the stage when military action is considered.
The military and diplomatic punch will still be ready but it will be in a softer glove.
No pushover
President-elect Obama is preparing for a difficult balancing act.
He has chosen people prepared to use American power but who are not intent, as the neo-conservatives were under President Bush, on trying to change the world.
We will not hear talk from this team about a "new American century" as we did under Mr Bush. But nor should anyone expect Washington to be a pushover now.
The United States will continue to fight two open wars - in Iraq and Afghanistan - and a counter-terrorism effort worldwide against al-Qaeda.
It will be interesting to see if the phrase "war on terror" will be used by the new administration. But, whatever it is called, it will be prosecuted.
Mr Obama has promised to send 10,000 more US troops to Afghanistan
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So too will the war in Afghanistan, with reinforcements of more than 10,000 soldiers already promised.
There will also be another concerted push to emphasise development. Easier said than done.
As for Iraq, the hope is that the war and the US commitment there will end.
Keeping current Defence Secretary Robert Gates on the Obama team is evidently intended to maintain that ambition.
Mr Gates has emerged as a spokesman for the kind of smart diplomacy that Mr Obama talked about during his campaign.
The proposed National Security Adviser, General James Jones, a former Nato and Marine Corps commander, has also reportedly signed up to the new approach.
The Clinton factor
But it will be the new secretary of state herself, Hillary Clinton, on whom most eyes will properly be focused.
She is on the more hawkish side of the Democratic party. As a senator, she voted in favour of the resolution authorising war against Iraq, a vote she cast "with conviction," she said.
She is a staunch supporter of Israel and a fierce critic of Iran.
Hillary Clinton has said no options remain off the table regarding Iran
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"Israel's right to exist, and exist in safety and peace, must never be called into question," she has said.
"We should not, cannot, must not permit Iran to build or acquire nuclear weapons." Iran has said that it does not intend to build or acquire nuclear weapons.
How far she will countenance the kind of direct diplomacy with Iran's President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad that her rival urged during the campaign remains to be seen.
She has said that no options must be taken off the table in dealing with Iran, but that was a reference to military force not diplomatic contact.
Relations with Russia may well continue to be difficult if she maintains her previous stance.
In 2005, with Senator John McCain, she nominated Georgia's President Mikhail Saakashvili and Ukrainian President Viktor Yushchenko for the Nobel Peace Prize.
President-elect Obama's philosophy of using more resources to prevent problems from becoming crises was summed up in an interview with the New York Times by Denis McDonough, a senior Obama foreign policy adviser:
"This is not an experiment, but a pragmatic solution to a long-acknowledged problem. During the campaign the then-senator invested a lot of time reaching out to retired military and also younger officers who have served in Iraq and Afghanistan to draw on lessons learned.
"There wasn't a meeting that didn't include a discussion of the need to strengthen and integrate the other tools of national power to succeed against unconventional threats," Mr McDonough said.
Paul.Reynolds-INTERNET@bbc.co.uk
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more financial information(5165)
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AP
Bernanke: lower interest rates are "feasible"
Monday December 1, 5:45 pm ET
By Jeannine Aversa, AP Economics Writer
Bernanke: lower rates are "feasible" but have limited economic benefit
WASHINGTON (AP) -- Federal Reserve Chairman Ben Bernanke said Monday that further interest-rate cuts are "certainly feasible," but he warned there are limits to how much such action would revive an economy likely to stay weak well into next year.
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The Fed's key interest rate now stands at 1 percent, a level seen only once before in the last half-century. To help lift the country out of a recession that started in December of last year, many economists predict Bernanke and his colleagues will drop the rate again at their next meeting on Dec. 15-16.
Bernanke spoke just hours after the National Bureau of Economic Research announced that the U.S. economy has been in a recession since December 2007.
He didn't mention the NBER's finding in his speech to business leaders in Austin, Texas, nor in answering questions afterward. However, Bernanke warned that the economy likely will remain stuck in a slump.
"Even if the functioning of financial markets continues to improve, economic conditions will probably remain weak for a time," he said.
In his speech, Bernanke noted that the bracing impact of the Fed's aggressive rate reductions has been somewhat stymied by the worst credit and financial crises to hit the world economy since the 1930s. Despite lower borrowing costs ordered by the Fed, skittish banks have been reluctant to lend money to people and businesses, a vicious cycle that has seriously hobbled the U.S. economy.
"Although further reductions ... are certainly feasible, at this point the scope for using conventional interest rate policies to support the economy is obviously limited," Bernanke said in the speech. The Fed can lower its key rate only so far -- to zero -- and it's getting ever closer to that threshold.
Bernanke said there are other ways that the Fed might bolster economic activity.
The Fed, for instance, could buy longer-term Treasury or agency securities on the open market in substantial quantities, he said. This might lower rates on these securities, "thus helping to spur aggregate demand," Bernanke said.
The Fed chief's remarks failed to comfort Wall Street. The Dow Jones industrials plunged nearly 680 points.
Given the limits to how low the Fed can go in reducing interest rates, the central bank over the past year has resorted to a flurry of other radical -- and often unprecedented actions -- with the hope of busting through credit jams and getting financial markets operating more normally.
It has ramped up cash and other types of loans to financial institutions, started buying mounds of short-term debt that companies rely on for day-to-day operations like paying salaries and buying supplies, and expanded its emergency lending program to investment firms.
Just last week the Fed announced two new programs aimed at increasing the availability and lowering the costs of credit card loans, auto loans, student loans and home mortgages.
The Fed last week said it would purchase $200 billion in securities backed by different types of consumer debt. That market essentially froze in October, making such loans harder to obtain while carrying higher interest rates.
The Fed also said it would spend $500 billion to purchase mortgage-backed securities guaranteed by mortgage giants Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac, and another $100 billion to directly purchase mortgages held by Fannie, Freddie and the Federal Home Loan Banks.
Bernanke said the Fed will continue to look for innovative ways to break through the credit logjams.
"We at the Federal Reserve and our colleagues at other federal agencies will carefully monitor the conditions of all key financial institutions and stand ready to act as needed to preserve their viability in this difficult financial environment," Bernanke said.
The NBER -- a private, nonprofit research organization -- said its group of academic economists who determine business cycles met on Friday and decided that the country tipped into recession in December 2007. The economy contracted in the final quarter of last year.
The economy jolted into reverse again in the summer. Many economists predict it is still shrinking now and will continue to do so through the first quarter of next year.
Consumers -- major shapers of national economic activity -- likely will keep cutting back on their spending, he said Consumers have been reeling from job losses, hard-to-get credit and hits to their wealth from sinking home values and tanking portfolio investments.
In October, the unemployment rate zoomed to 6.5 percent, a 14-year high. So far this year, 1.2 million positions have disappeared. The jobless rate is likely to climb to 8 percent or higher next year.
A student of the Great Depression, Bernanke said the current period of economic woe bears "no comparison in terms of severity" to the 1930s.
Asked how he would like to be remembered as Fed chairman, Bernanke said: "I hope it would be that we got the financial crisis under control, that we set a groundwork for ... strong growth in our economy and that we began a process of healing."
On his point about mending, Bernanke acknowledged: "It's going to take a while."
AP Business Writer John Porretto contributed to this report from Austin.
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Oh what fun.Clean hands, warm heart?(5163)
Just for Fun- comments:
Clean People Are Less Judgmenta
A vigorous hand wash or shower could cause a person to be less judgmental.
A new study, set for publication in the December issue of the journal Psychological Science, reveals that when a person feels physically clean, he or she cuts others more moral slack.
The findings add to past research that has shown a link between physical warmth and generosity as well as physical chill and social isolation. Other past research has shown that sins seem to nudge people to clean themselves, a phenomenon the researchers dubbed the "Macbeth effect" after the dramatized murderess who tried scrubbing her hands to clean off imaginary blood.
"When we exercise moral judgment, we believe we are making a conscious, rational decision, but this research shows that we are subconsciously influenced by how clean or 'pure' we feel," said lead researcher of the new study Simone Schnall, a psychologist at the University of Plymouth in England. "Take for example the situation of a jury member or voting in an election - if the jury member had washed their hands prior to delivering their verdict, they may judge the crime less harshly."
She added, "Similarly, someone may find it easier to overlook a political misdemeanor had they performed an action that made them feel 'clean' prior to casting their vote."
The results come from two experiments with university students. In the first one, 40 students had to complete 40 scrambled sentence tasks, each involving four words. By underlining any three words, a sentence could be formed. One group of students worked on sentences that included some "clean" words, such as "pure," "washed," "immaculate" and "pristine," while another group read neutral words.
The participants then rated a series of moral dilemmas on a scale ranging from "perfectly OK" to "extremely wrong." The dilemmas included keeping money found inside a wallet, putting false information on a resume, killing a terminally ill plane crash survivor in order to avoid starvation and using a kitten for sexual arousal.
The students who read the clean-word sentences judged such transgressions to be less wrong compared with the other students in the experiment.
In the second experiment, students watched a three-minute clip from the dark drug film "Trainspotting," which had been shown to elicit feelings of disgust. Then, half of the students washed their hands while the others didn't. The students rated the same six moral vignettes as had students in the first experiment. The hand-washers gave less severe ratings to the vignettes than did those who didn't wash their hands.
Schnall said the students who had washed their hands or read about cleanliness likely misinterpreted their physically pure feelings as being about the moral vignette. Her past research showed the same link between disgust and moral judgments.
"If I feel disgusted because I sit at a dirty desk, and I think about how wrong it is to not return a lost wallet, then I mistakenly think the feeling of disgust is about 'oh that's a disgusting thing to do,' whereas in reality it's coming from the desk," Schnall told LiveScience.
She added, "If I feel clean because I've washed my hands, I think 'well it's not such a bad thing to do,' but that's only because my physical sensation is of the sort."
She hopes to test out the finding with real-life scenarios to see how well it applies.
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